An open letter to an ex boyfriend:

I used to be a post break up hair cut woman only. In the desperation of a break up I would think, "Yes, a scalp massage and a fresh look is just the ticket to feeling better." 

Also, they will listen to you and call the guy a jerk. Haha. 

Through the work of aligning again and again with who I am being becoming - allowing my insides to match my outsides, which is a lifelong moment to moment journey, I have found that the type of woman I am is the strangest blend of high fashion and hippie. The gifts we receive through seeking alignment are those magical moments when we align and it feels different. We have grown. 

I had a moment last night where I was in a mall trying on those @stuartweitzman boots (gah-damn!!!) 

((It was just for fun Mom, don't worry. I'm saving those for my first six figure year ☺️ ))

It was this head spinning moment of not recognizing myself. Who is this lady!? I felt momentarily disoriented. I felt a mixture of shame, fear and sadness. 

But then it hit me. I feel congruent! I feel like me!!!! The newness that I did not recognize was not an illness. It was a new version of myself emerging. Those feelings of fear became feelings of peace. That's a reason to celebrate. 

When we take the time it takes to strip away the cultural and familial overlays that we believe limit us (they don't!) and step fully into ourselves, we may find a surprise awaiting us. 

Love, I think you would be surprised: Surprised at who I am now, surpirsied at who you might be under there. 

So a huge THANK YOU to @jillkeyes1 for the amazing stylings. 

Thank you for allowing me to learn about hair, for facilitating me feeling beautiful at The Santa Land Diaries. (Go. It's hilarious). 

Thank you for allowing the grace that is a woman who is no longer just a post break up hair cut kinda hippie who is me to emerge by pushing off of me and kicking me out of your life. 

Tony Robbins (and many other spiritual teachers), invites us to ask better questions. Instead of me reacting from feelings of stress (reaching for wine or tinder 😉), 

I think by asking "How can I really relax and nourish myself right now?" and letting that answer flow, I find out just how beautiful and pleasurable life can be. I can find myself in the mall (of all places - used to be allergic) trying on beautiful boots and realizing I am really showing up as me. 

What questions are YOU asking yourself? How can you reframe them if they need to be reframed, so recieve the answers you actually want?

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